Just because

Sometimes, have you ever felt like you were obliged to act in a certain manner just because? Or have you ever felt like things were said to you just because? Or maybe, you have to say some things to others just because? Or maybe, people act in certain manner and say certain things just because.

Sometimes, some things are just because they are as they are. Like the sun rising and setting, like the tide coming and going, like living and dying. Sometimes, we don’t know why, but it happens just because.

But sometimes, when people act in certain ways just because they think they are entitled to; it becomes very difficult to reason with that person, because after all, s/he thinks they are allowed to do so just because.

I can think of many things where people act and say things just because, just because and not because of something which can even substantiate as a reason why those things are done and said.

For example, sometimes parents expect their children to respect them. I know I, for one should not be questioning this. But seriously, like everyone else, children are humans too. If parents cannot respect their children too, their thoughts, their changes and their opinions, how can children do the same to parents? They might have the authority, but do they have the right to say things just because? Even when it hurts the child? Is it fair to expect too much just because?

Another example I can think of is the girl-guy relationship. Look around you and you can see that some relationships fizzle into thin air just as fast as it started. Because things have become just because. You have to call just because. You don’t call just because you are so secure. You think he will never leave you just because you have been together so long. You don’t take care of your appearance anymore because you think he loves you anyway. You stop progressing just because you know that he loves you just because. That may all be true, but does that mean we should leave it at that just because?

And don’t even talk about friendships. There are only a handful of people I can call “friends”. Because some people think we are friends just because we went to the same Uni. Or just because we went to the same school. There are so many things that our “friends” think they know of us, which they actually don’t. We don’t call our friends often just because they know we would be there for them anyway. Friends think they can do and say anything just because. And there are a million other things I can think of, where it concerns relationships.

The list of things that happen just because is never going to be exhaustive. And alot of people don't really know the consequences of doing things JUST BECAUSE.

Think of it, and think of the things we all take for granted, well, just because.

Comments

iezu said…
you're pretty restrictive in your use of the term "friend". or maybe it is i who is too liberal with the use. which could also be the source of my many issues...
Haneesa said…
maybe that's because i learnt it the hard way, my dear. i was once like you. i claimed anyone i knew as "friend". i soon came to realise that far from it, they could never be our friends. they are just people we know and people who think know us.

imagine: even friends can do things just because, imagine what acquaintances are capable of?

or maybe i'm just too sensitive as well?
Miss Dini said…
hemm..I kinda agree with you dear honeystar. I thot everyone that we knew were our friends but it doesn't work that way actually..really..sad huh.
Haneesa said…
Kan dinie?
it's really sad, but what to do... they'll always just be ppl we know. and maybe in some ways, it's better that way too :)

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