August 22, 2009

Siapa yang makan cili, dia lah terasa pedasnya.

Most of us belong to at least one group of friends. If we don’t belong to a more minute/personal group say like the Phycs, we belong to Fighterzs9802 at the very least. If you don’t belong to the SmartyPants, you belong to LLB (Honours). Point is, we belong somewhere. We are all connected in one way or another.

When we become the person on the outside looking in, it’s always easy to criticise people for the things they do and the things they say. Always. I do not think that anyone is free of this particular guilt. It’s easy to say how cliquish that particular group of people is, how they dress, how they talk, what they do, the places they go.

We always have something to say. And trust me, more often than not, this is mostly contributed by jealousy... or maybe that thing we Malays call dengki. Worst still, the things we so openly and easily criticise happen to be things we do as well. The things we so openly loathe them saying, are things we say as well. Bottom line is, in most instances, we are no better. And as I’ve mentioned previously, it all balls down to our first impressions and perceptions.

I have encountered a type of people who take heart over the things which are done and said to other people and not to themselves. Even when the thing said and done is so miniscule; they should not have taken heart. When someone else makes a joke about other people, they take heart. When someone else calls someone by a pet name which is not necessarily pretty, they take heart. Even when the things said and done to are not onto themselves, they take heart. And they start telling everybody how terrible that person doing and saying those things are.

Perhaps, they are just empathetic; perhaps a little too empathetic.

Because it happens to be that the person to whom those things were said and done does not mind at all. Because that person to whom the things were being said and done knows the person who did those things well enough, to know that it was not meant in bad faith.

It’s nice isn’t it, to always tell stories of how terrible other people are. Other people always like to get a sniff of other people's dirty laundry and what better than to become the monger of such juicy gossip. Especially so when we are the ones on the outside looking in.

Apparently now, not only those yang makan cili terasa pedasnya, yang tak tergigit, tapi tak tahan pedas lebih pulak terasa pedasnya.
Ya Allah, bukakan lah hati hamba-hambamu untuk menerima kelemahan orang lain, menghargai kekuatan mereka dan juga muhasabah diri sendiri sebelum pandai menunding jari. Kerana at the end of the day, we are one and the same, and to Him we shall return.

Okay, Selamat menjalani Ibadah Puasa di bulan Ramadhan dengan sempurna.


abduls said...

saya makan cili ensem je. :)

freespirited12 said...

takde kena mengena please. hehe