Not everyone is someone.
I had a nice chat with one of my Kesayangans yesterday. Yes, I know 2 of you contacted me yesterday and we had a whole message thread (I can still read messages in FB via hotmail, baru discover) but this chat was the one I had with the one who always seems to call me at the right time, out of the blue, just to chat. And the next thing you know, I’m telling her everything I have been keeping to myself, which I didn’t plan on telling anyone in the first place. Well, anyways, it was all good.
And yesterday, my friend and I agreed that not everyone is someone.
Don’t know if I’ve written on anything like this before because it feels like I have, but I know you wouldn’t want to comb through each and every post I’ve written just to see if I have because even I wouldn’t do the same.
Are you picky about who you are friends with? I consider myself an introvert. Not just because I enjoy my time alone, but also because I tend to stick to things I am comfortable with because… they provide me comfort? In this world today, I feel like it’s so difficult to get just a little bit of comfort. It’s difficult to feel comfortable around people you don’t know, because more often than not, you’re being judged. From the things you wear to the things you say – people judge and you know it. Because you can’t help doing it yourself, too.
And in this world today, everyone has trust issues. You tell someone something and the next thing you know, your next door neighbour in the office already knows that “something” you told the other person “in confidence”. No one talks about the oh-so-boring problems surrounding the world anymore. No one talks about inventions because everything there is to help us out has been invented. So, we talk about people. Sometimes, too much about the same old people. Let’s just face the fact that in the world today, no one can be trusted and that one day, you’ll end up as a centre of gossip because that’s what people do best – they gossip.
So, is it any surprise if we pick and choose our friends like choosing flavours at the ice cream parlour? It’s not often that we pick a newly introduced flavour unless someone recommends it to us, right? Because there’s always a possibility that the choices we make could backfire and there goes RM7.90 (kalau beli Baskin Robbins la hehe).
Likewise with friends. We can’t help but want to talk to the same people, even when we don’t have anything substantive to talk about. Because we have experienced our efforts to make friends with other people being shot down point blank and there goes our ego (especially for people like me, whose egotism is as high as the clouds. cakap clouds sebab sky takda limit. mine still has its limits. perlu ke nak explain? hehe). Obviously with bad experiences of all sorts, we tend to stick to the same close-knit set of people. At least you know at the end of the day, they’ve got your back.
Speaking of friendship and all else in between, I do really feel like FB has come to that point of being invasive. Though I must say that most of the time, the invasion happens by choice since most people don’t mind sharing what they do, feel or think with everyone at every hour of the day anymore, not bearing in mind that there are strangers reading and observing and forever judging at the other end of the screen.
Now, FB has sort of automatically linked us with the things/people/groups which they think we should be affiliated with. Imagine that, a computer program telling us what they have concluded from the things we disclose. Imagine what mere muggles like ourselves would conclude when we put emotions, judgment and thoughts into the equation. It could get really ugly, don’t you think so?
I really wonder why people put in so much of their lives on FB. Maybe I’m not interesting enough to disclose much of anything there. Or maybe, I’m just cautious because I know that at least 20 out of the list of “friends” are people whom I’ve never even said “hello” to in real life.
Point of this long post is actually a very simple one – not everyone is someone to us. Not everyone was meant for everyone and FB has just managed to break down that barrier, whether rightly or wrongly so, is up to you to decide. I still think that I’d like the people around me to be my everything.
And that does not include everyone – as it should be.
And yesterday, my friend and I agreed that not everyone is someone.
Don’t know if I’ve written on anything like this before because it feels like I have, but I know you wouldn’t want to comb through each and every post I’ve written just to see if I have because even I wouldn’t do the same.
Are you picky about who you are friends with? I consider myself an introvert. Not just because I enjoy my time alone, but also because I tend to stick to things I am comfortable with because… they provide me comfort? In this world today, I feel like it’s so difficult to get just a little bit of comfort. It’s difficult to feel comfortable around people you don’t know, because more often than not, you’re being judged. From the things you wear to the things you say – people judge and you know it. Because you can’t help doing it yourself, too.
And in this world today, everyone has trust issues. You tell someone something and the next thing you know, your next door neighbour in the office already knows that “something” you told the other person “in confidence”. No one talks about the oh-so-boring problems surrounding the world anymore. No one talks about inventions because everything there is to help us out has been invented. So, we talk about people. Sometimes, too much about the same old people. Let’s just face the fact that in the world today, no one can be trusted and that one day, you’ll end up as a centre of gossip because that’s what people do best – they gossip.
So, is it any surprise if we pick and choose our friends like choosing flavours at the ice cream parlour? It’s not often that we pick a newly introduced flavour unless someone recommends it to us, right? Because there’s always a possibility that the choices we make could backfire and there goes RM7.90 (kalau beli Baskin Robbins la hehe).
Likewise with friends. We can’t help but want to talk to the same people, even when we don’t have anything substantive to talk about. Because we have experienced our efforts to make friends with other people being shot down point blank and there goes our ego (especially for people like me, whose egotism is as high as the clouds. cakap clouds sebab sky takda limit. mine still has its limits. perlu ke nak explain? hehe). Obviously with bad experiences of all sorts, we tend to stick to the same close-knit set of people. At least you know at the end of the day, they’ve got your back.
Speaking of friendship and all else in between, I do really feel like FB has come to that point of being invasive. Though I must say that most of the time, the invasion happens by choice since most people don’t mind sharing what they do, feel or think with everyone at every hour of the day anymore, not bearing in mind that there are strangers reading and observing and forever judging at the other end of the screen.
Now, FB has sort of automatically linked us with the things/people/groups which they think we should be affiliated with. Imagine that, a computer program telling us what they have concluded from the things we disclose. Imagine what mere muggles like ourselves would conclude when we put emotions, judgment and thoughts into the equation. It could get really ugly, don’t you think so?
I really wonder why people put in so much of their lives on FB. Maybe I’m not interesting enough to disclose much of anything there. Or maybe, I’m just cautious because I know that at least 20 out of the list of “friends” are people whom I’ve never even said “hello” to in real life.
Point of this long post is actually a very simple one – not everyone is someone to us. Not everyone was meant for everyone and FB has just managed to break down that barrier, whether rightly or wrongly so, is up to you to decide. I still think that I’d like the people around me to be my everything.
And that does not include everyone – as it should be.
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